Excuses Are Well Planned Lies…..

Not to long ago, I could’ve been crowed the ‘Queen of Excuses’. I always seemed to have a reason why something didn’t happen the way it should’ve. Or why I wasn’t able to do as good of a job as I could’ve. In my mind, I thought if I could convince the other party and/or myself that there was a legitimate reason I didn’t achieve better results, they I would still be a successful person. So, day after day I continued to make up these excuses and day after day I continued to under achieve my goals. It even got so bad that I would sometimes use excuses to tell myself that I didn’t have to do something. I’d say,”It’s ok. Today this happened and that thing came up. I just won’t be able to do it.” So day after day my ‘to do’ list kept piling up because I’d always find an excuse not to do what was on it. I was LYING to myself to feel good in the moment and ‘telling myself’ that I was still a successful person even if I didn’t follow through on what needed to be done.

I continued this way for years. Stressed and frustrated because I never was achieving what I wanted. At times feeling overwhelmed because there was just SO MUCH on my ‘to do’ list. The stress and frustration affected all my relationships and perpetuated even more excuses. I was so unhappy but I didn’t know why. I didn’t even realize what I was doing to myself.

One day, after breaking down from the stress, I asked myself a question,”Why am I not doing all of these things that I want and need to do?” That’s when I realized that it was because I was always giving myself an excuse. A PASS to get away with everything. I knew the only way to start acheving was to get rid of the excuses.

I’d love to say that from that moment on I never made up another excuse in my life, but of course it took time. The important thing was that I was realzing and ‘calling myself out’ everytime I made an excuse. From there I would stop myself, correct my mistake and take accountability. Was it easy correcting a habit of many many years? Not exactly. But it was so freeing! I could never go back to feeling trapped in all that stress and frustation.

The biggest lesson of all was the lesson of success. I was now able to see that these excuses were holding myself back from achieving anything. I was lying to myself to try to feel successful when in truth, I wasn’t successful at all. Now I have tore down those boundaries and have left nothing in the way of getting to where I want to be.

I encourage you to take a look at what’s going on in your head. What excuses are you telling yourself? What could you be doing if those excuses weren’t holding you back? I bet you would be amazed at your potential if you could tear down those excuses.

Believe in Your Success! I Believe in You!